As I work my homebusiness, I get to know a lot of amazing people – moms who are also working from home & who share the same vision of staying home for our kids & family. These people (and the companies that provide this opportunity) inspire me (and a lot of moms out there) to get going even when it gets rough – and NEVER to quit. Don’t let the ‘dream stealers’ take your cherished dream away.
Be inspired by these words-
This one’s from my Ameriplan Team mentor, Shauna:
11 Ways To Raise Your Perseverance Quotient:
1. Be grown up, which means, be independent, take responsibility for yourself. When you step out, take risks, and succeed, some people may be envious or fearful that they’re “losing” the former you. This can cause them to be critical of your new aspirations and plans. They become “dream stealers.” When you are overly concerned about what your family, friends and acquaintances might say, you might lose your drive to persevere and let your dreams fade away.
This may be a great time to develop new friends who support your goals and gladly celebrate your achievements. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to abandon the old ones. But let them know how you feel. Just give them a little room to catch up with the new you!
2. Intentionally select positive re-enforcement. When you purchase books and tapes, movies and other media for your entertainment, seek those with strong, uplifting themes. Select those which nurture your spirit. Avoid as much negative messaging as possible, including other outside influences that bring you down. For those times when negativity unavoidably invades your space, find something to learn from it or something humorous about it. When someone hands you the thorns, find the roses!
3. Live healthy. Energy and stamina are musts for perseverance. You need them for focus, resilience, optimism, self-confidence, clarity and intensity. You have seen from the above quiz how much each of these effects your Perseverance Quotient!
4. Ask, “What is true?” not “What do others think is true?” To make effective decisions, you must take the responsibility of perceiving reality as accurately as possible. Decision-making is not a popularity contest and there’s definitely no guarantee that what the majority thinks or believes is compatible with the truth. This includes the people the majority regard as experts.
When you seek the truth, you’re being true to yourself. When you’re true to yourself, you nourish your will to persevere.
5. When getting advice, consider the source.
If you want to shorten the distance from perseverance to achievement, you want to learn from the mistakes of others, rather than repeating them yourself. And you want to use the methods that have brought others the success you seek.
If you’re planning to climb Mt Everest, who will you look to for advice? The best source is someone else who has done it!!
If you want to pilot an airplane, would you listen to advice from Aunt Matilda who has never done anything in her life more demanding than entering a Bridge contest? Would you ask your accountant? Your best friend? Or would you seek advice from someone who is a successful pilot?
If you wanted to start a small business, would you seek advice from someone at work, your minister, a university professor, a corporate person, or from someone who is already successful in the business?
And here’s a fascinating corollary: if you are looking for a way out, an excuse to quit, you need go no farther than Aunt Matilda, your accountant, the folks at work, etc. You’ll get all the negative encouragement necessary to put your dream back on the shelf.
6. Avoid the “no action” alibi. We’ve all been guilty from time to time of using convenient alibis for not persevering.
Eric Hoffer, who had spent much of his life as a “simple” longshoreman, is a great example of someone who didn’t let other people’s stereotypes, which he could have used as no-action alibis, prevent him from becoming a best-selling philosopher-author.
And Eric Hoffer says it well: “There are many who find a good alibi far more attractive than an achievement. For an achievement does not settle anything permanently. We still have to prove that we are as good today as we were yesterday.
“But when we have a valid alibi for not achieving anything, we are fixed, so to speak, for life. Moreover, when we have an alibi for not writing a book and not painting a picture and so on, we have an alibi for not writing the greatest book and not painting the greatest picture. Small wonder that the effort expended and the punishment endured in obtaining a good alibi often exceed the effort and grief requisite for the attainment of a most marked achievement.”
The important thing is to be totally honest with ourselves; recognize the alibi for what it is and not make alibis a way of life.
7. Identify counterproductive habits or thoughts you would like to discontinue. Then dump them!
Being mentally or emotionally rigid means that you hang on to habits that no longer serve you, habits that can make you unproductive, frustrated, unfulfilled.
Examples of counterproductive habits that may reduce your will to persevere:
—Grousing about politics, work or the neighbors with friends
—Blowing small aggravations out of proportion
—Dwelling in the past
—Worrying about stuff that may not even happen, or that you cannot control
—Viewing yourself as a victim
—Worrying about what others are doing or what others have.
“Be true to yourself.”
Focus on what you can do, not what you cannot do. When you focus on what you cannot do, you get more of it!
8. Willingly forgive yourself and others. Do this for your own sake, your own peace of mind. Carrying around the emotions of grudges, disapproval, hatred, or disappointment is toxic to your spirit of perseverance. Whether the subject person is someone else or yourself, you are the one feeling the wound. You don’t hurt others when you hold hatred toward them; you hurt yourself. And you can hurt yourself seriously by allowing hatred to fester in your consciousness. You can’t experience anger and joy at the same time—so leave plenty of room for the joy!
9. Take reasonable risks. Without risk, there’s no reward. Risk avoidance dampens the spirit, undermining the will to persist in the face of obstacles and reversals. The choice not to choose is probably one of the riskiest choices you can ever make, with zero upside potential!
10. Get support. You deserve to be around folks supportive of your aspirations. All good psychologists, counselors, coaches and teachers will tell you that you must have exposure to a positive environment. Napoleon Hill called it a Mastermind Group.
11. Don’t quit.
When you feel yourself slipping, remember Sparky. School was all but impossible for Sparky. He failed every subject in the eighth grade. He flunked physics, Latin, algebra and English in high school. He didn’t do much better in sports. Although he did manage to make the school golf team, he promptly lost the only important match of the year. There was a consolation match and he lost that, too.
Throughout his youth, Sparky was awkward socially. He was not actually disliked by the other students; he wasn’t considered consequential enough for that! He was astonished if a classmate ever said “hello” to him outside school hours. He never found out how he would have fared as a “date.” In high school, Sparky never once asked a girl out. He was too afraid of being rejected.
Sparky was a loser. He, his classmates, and everyone else knew it, so Sparky simply accepted it. But one thing was important to Sparky: drawing. He was proud of his own artwork. Of course, no one else appreciated it. In his senior year in high school, he submitted some cartoons to the editors of his yearbook. They were turned down. Despite this particularly painful rejection, Sparky had found his passion. Upon graduating from high school, he wrote a letter to Walt Disney Studios. He was told to send some samples of his artwork, and the subject matter for a cartoon was suggested. Sparky drew the proposed cartoon. He spent a great deal of time on it and on the other drawings. Finally the reply from the Disney Studios came. He had been rejected once again. Another loss for the loser.
Sparky wrote his own autobiography in cartoons. He described his childhood self, a little-boy loser and chronic under achiever. He was the little cartoon boy whose kite would never fly, who never succeeded in kicking the football, and who became the most famous cartoon character of all, Charlie Brown!
Sparky, the boy who failed every subject in the eighth grade and whose work was rejected again and again, was Charles Schulz.
Charles Schulz persevered. He succeeded beyond his wildest imagination. He earned and deserved that success. He had failed at everything else he had tried. He endured rejection. It took a lot of trial and error to finally find out what it was that he was supposed to do. But he never quit. Because Charles Schulz persevered, the world is richer.
Perseverance is the insurance policy and common denominator for success. So powerful is perseverance that failure cannot exist in its presence. As Edison observed when after thousands of efforts to make the electric light bulb produced no illumination, “I haven’t failed. I’ve identified 10,000 ways this doesn’t work” By accurately viewing it as a learning experience, eventually Edison succeeded, leaving the critics and nay-sayers one of mankind¹s most important inventions.
Charles Schulz, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Colonel Sanders, Thomas Edison, Ayn Rand and the endless list of other persistent great achievers found that success inevitably arrives for every person who perseveres. Learn from the people who did it: Let perseverance keep your goals alive. And your dreams real.
Do what you love to do. Stand up for what you believe in. Make it a part of your life. Work toward it every day. Remember with every “No” you are that much closer to a “Yes” And by learning from each defeat and staying the course, success is inevitable
This one’s a Power Booster from the My Power Mall team-
How many times have you been discouraged because someone else didn’t see the brilliance of what you created, thought of, or wanted to do? How many times have you walked away from something because you decided it wasn’t a good idea, too?
The movie Star Wars was rejected by every movie studio in Hollywood before 20th Century Fox finally produced it. It went on to be one of the largest-grossing movies in film history.
As a child, Sylvester Stallone was frequently beaten by his father and told he had no brains. He grew up an unhappy loner. He floated in and out of schools. An advisor at Drexel University told him that based on his aptitude tests he should pursue a career as an elevator repair person. It’s not a bad profession but it’s certainly not where “Rocky” ended up!
Einstein was criticized for not wearing socks or cutting his hair. He didn’t speak until he was four, and didn’t read until he was seven. One observer noted, “He could be mentally retarded.”
An expert said of Vince Lombardi: “He possesses minimal football knowledge. Lacks motivation
Beethoven handled the violin awkwardly and preferred playing his own compositions instead of improving his technique. His teacher proclaimed him hopeless as a composer.
Walt Disney was fired from his job as a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. He also went bankrupt several times before he created Disneyland.
Henry Ford failed and went broke 5 times before he finally succeeded.
Louisa May Alcott, the author of Little Women, was encouraged to find work as a servant or seamstress. She would certainly never be a writer.
In 1944, the director of the Blue Book Modeling Agency, told modeling hopeful Norma Jean Baker (Marilyn Monroe), “You’d better learn secretarial work, or else get married.
So… what are your ideas? Your thoughts? Your dreams? Who cares if anyone supports what you want to do?
The important thing is for YOU to believe. For YOU to ignore the people who say you can’t do it – and DO IT ANYWAY! It takes courage. It takes persistence. It takes believing in the “voice inside” when no one else does.
Ideas, dreams and visions are planted within you because you have the ability to make them happen. You’ll learn, grow, scramble, fail, and get back up again! The important thing is to simply never give up. The people I told you about never did – and they made great things happen!
Here’s to your success!
Indeed, here’s to OUR SUCCESS!